Throughout college you grow and you learn. Sometimes you make mistakes, and you learn from those mistakes. Sometimes you learn by living through the hard moments in life, and coming out the other side barely in one piece. And sometimes you even learn from the advice of your friends. But throughout college you grow a whole lot and you learn a whole lot more.
Here are some of the most important things I have learned and some of the tips I wish I had known when I started college, so that way you might be able to learn from the advice instead of learning from the mistake.
Friendships will end. It is guaranteed that no matter how hard you try and certain friendships, they are meant to end. That’s okay, that doesn’t mean that the friendship wasn’t important. If you friendship taught you something, good or bad, then it was important. As people grow up and learn more about themselves and who they want to be, they might grow apart from people they used to be really close to.
Friendships will be created. As you grow up you’ll learn more about yourself and who you want to be. Where you want to end up later in your life. All that fun stuff that comes with growing up. With this learning, you’ll meet people who want the same things as you do, and believe in the same things you do. You’ll make friends that fit who you want to be, people who know what you believe in and will push you to be the best person you can possibly be. Sometimes you will have to go out of your way or out of your comfort zone to make a friend, but I can promise you it will be worth it.
You’ll be questioned about your faith. People will ask you questions, whether they are believers or not. They’ll want to know why you believe in God. They’ll be curious about what makes you have faith. Especially the people who have a harder time believing, they’ll want to see if you have advice that might help them. Some people will question you to try and figure out where your weaknesses are. Just be honest, when people question you answer truthfully. 99% of people are just curious and want to know more about God and faith.
Jokes always brighten a mood. No matter how down you are, jokes will lighten your mood. Along with this, you will figure out what your favorite kinds of jokes are (mine personally are the corny/dad jokes). When you are in a gray mood, just look up some jokes. They’ll make things a little better, I promise.
Find a church you feel welcome in. Start trying out churches in your college town at the beginning of the year and don’t stick with the first church you try if you don’t feel welcome. Keep trying churches until you find the one you fit in with, the one you feel welcome in on your first visit. Once you find that church, keep going. Join a Youth Group, a Bible Study, or a Small Group. It helps so much with the adjustment to a new year, new classes, a new schedule. You’ll create a group of friends who will support you through everything and who will lift you up whenever your mood is down (maybe with some jokes even).
Use the planner, like, actually use it. Don’t just buy it. Everyone says this, but believe me, they are right. Buy the planner. Use the planner. It will save your life during every busy week of the school year. It will help you keep class, sorority, clubs, church, and everything else in your life neat and tidy. Use your planner from the beginning, don’t wait until everything is due in the same week to try and plan. If you use it from the beginning it will save your life the week everything is due. I use an Erin Condren LifePlanner, and it the best planner I have ever bought. 10 out of 10 would recommend.
Make time every day to decompress. I know this sounds trivial. Who wouldn’t just do that naturally? But trust me when I say this, you will get busy enough that you will forget to make time for yourself. Block off a section of each day in your planner (see there we go with the planner again!) to just be by yourself. During this time I read my bible, read some of my current book, write some poetry, listen to music, just whatever I want to do by myself. This always helps me calm down after a hectic day.
Get involved. Whether that be in a sorority or school clubs. I personally got involved in both. Getting involved is one of the best ways to cope with homesickness when you first move to school. You meet so many new people, make so many lifelong friends. You have opportunities to travel abroad or travel across the country. Some of the opportunities I have this year are conferences in Chicago, Las Vegas, New York City, and Nashville.. and that is this year alone! I got those opportunities just by getting involved in my major and sorority.
These are some of the most important things I have learned since starting college. If you try these out and they work for you, let me know! If you have some that aren’t on this list, let me know! I’d be down to try new things too 🙂
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